The Classy Man’s Guide to Flirting Without Looking Like a Player
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Guys, girls these days are wiser, smarter, and have better tastes. We’ve evolved from the race that accepts men as they are. And women these days cannot be taken easily with a wink or a nasty remark. Not even when you’re dating a much younger woman. Not even a classic pickup line – that just makes you look like losers.
Women today are looking for men with classier, finer tastes and attitudes. Flirting, has evolved, too. You can’t just expect to take home a woman for whistling to her or commenting about how great her cleavage looks like or how beautiful and shiny your (mom’s) car is.
The flirting techniques that involved looking at a woman from head to foot, with uncomfortable stopovers at the chest and bum areas are better suited for the indecent douchebags of the world. Girls these days are looking to flirt with men – confident, loyal, mature men, and not a bunch of boys.
And only logically, women these days are also keener at spotting the player at first glance, especially from the way he flirts.
Here are some tips for every guy out there on how to flirt without looking like a player:
Forget the stare. Didn’t your mom ever teach you that staring is rude? Wipe that drool and lustful look off that face like you’re going to undress and devour her at the first chance you get. A classier way to look at a woman is to look into her eyes, and smile. No, don’t smile your evil smile; smile like you’ve seen the most beautiful thing in the planet.
Forget about the pickup line. Rehearsed, overused pickup lines don’t work anymore. They are better left for the college boy who’s still learning the art of dating and picking up women. Instead, make an honest, slightly shy compliment. Sure there is value and points for the confidence but too much confidence comes off as a cheap compliment that only looks forward to getting laid at the end of the night.
Don’t stand too close. Seriously, dude. You just met her. Don’t try to bury your face in her neck in your attempt to ask for her name and number. Stay at a clean, respectful distance. The last thing you’d want is to be laughed at for trying too hard to seduce her and failing.
Be friendly, not too flirty. Good guys are nice and friendly, and subtle at flirting too. Players flirt to get laid or to add to his collection of women. But good guys – good guys are genuinely interested in knowing women without any hidden, dark intentions.
Go slow on touching.
It is one thing to be touching her elbow when you’re guiding her through the crowded bar. Or holding her hand at the stairs. But to make unnecessary touches, or making sure your shoulder touches her shoulder – too creepy mister!
Nice guys flirt too! And they are actually more attractive and fun to flirt with than men who are obviously just preying on every woman around him. Keep it classy, subtle and best of all, respectful.
It’s always good to bear in mind that you don’t have to make a fool of yourself while flirting!
Dating Tips for Chubby Guys
So you think only men with abs and biceps like Channing Tatum can have all the fun? Of course not! Men on the heavier side of things may not be having as much fun, but more often than not, it’s because of their own doing and not because of the girls rejecting them left and right.
Regardless of weight, every man is entitled to enjoy his dating life.
Bigger guys need more help in dating not because they are unattractive but because of the way they carry themselves – no pun intended. Nope, don’t look at me like I’m making stuff up. This is not another buy-this-weight-loss-supplement or –try-this-five-minute-exercise kind of dating advice. This is dating advice for chubby men as real as it gets. Regardless of weight, every man has the right to date. Here are some tips and techniques on how to ask a woman out. Trust me, you would want to hear this one out.
Here are some dating tips for the chubby guys:
Know what you’re good at and what makes you special. And I don’t mean acting like a special child by being a man-boy. You can play the guitar a la Hendrix? Or you can write a good poem? Or you an accomplished writer? Or an artist? I’m sure you’re good at something! A lot of overweight people – guys and girls alike – let their physical appearance cloud their judgment on their worth as a person. And so the key to finding that self confidence is to dig deep into your personality on what makes you absolutely special. There has got to be something awesome about you – something that will make you stand out from all other men! When you’ve found it, you’ll find a source for your self confidence boost and sooner or later, if you train your mind to think that you are, in fact, special, you’ll find more jig in your step and a better perspective on things and people. Oh, and when you find this, use this to your advantage when trying to pick up women.
Choose the people you hang out with. If you hang out with douchebags and gym buffs who could not appreciate diversity, or people who are so judgmental of you and make you feel inferior, maybe you need to find better friends who will accept you for who you are. Surround yourself with people who are more open to diversity and who would look past your appearance, or better yet, would make you feel good about yourself. These kinds of crowd will do your ego a lot of good and maybe, just maybe, lead you to finding women who are likeminded.
Always smell good. Wear fresh clothes, double your deodorant use, and always shower before leaving the house. The flabs in our body create folds – in the tummy, in the legs, and because we are on the heavier side, you’re likely to sweat more. These ‘flab folds’ hold in so much sweat and are a great breeding ground for odor-causing bacteria, making chubbier guys stink more than skinny ones. So make sure to put deodorant between your love handles and spray on deo before leaving the house. A guy who smells good looks better than a guy who looks dashingly handsome.
Win your lady with humor and your adorable self. Most chubby guys are either funny or extremely cute and sweet. If you are either (or lucky for you, both), use it to charm women. PS: avoid self deprecating humor. It’s not funny and it’s a huge turn off.
Embrace your curves and flabs baby! If it’s any consolation, there are women who get attracted to fat men. Good luck!
Thailand, Men´s paradise?
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“She treats me like no woman ever has before,” say the Western men who have fallen in love with a Thai girl.
But what do they mean? What is this special kind of treatment that drives them crazy, and what we, Western women, don’t seem to be able to provide? When asked, men say that Thai women just have something we don’t have, but that it’s difficult to put it into words. They say Thai women are magical. But can pure magic explain the reason men lust over them? Why do men really fall in love with Thai girls? What’s reality, what’s illusion? And how can men be so charmed, they say they could never again date a Westerner?
This could be partly explained by the image that’s been created of Asian women in the media: the stereotype features an exotic and erotic beauty that respects, appreciates and pleases her man. And often, it seems, men are in love with Thai women way before they even step onto that plane taking them to Thailand. When they land, the stereotype hold true at least as far as looks go, and the men are hooked.
“She is so beautiful,” is the first thing men say about their Thai girlfriends. Many Thai women have delicate features and small frames compared to Westerners, but are still “amazingly curvy, according to the men. They have long, silky, black hair and golden skin. And they look young, always younger than they are.
Western women have a hard time understanding why a Thai woman is nothing less than a goddess to many Western men. Perhaps the answer is simple: differences attract. Western women similarly fall for the dark and exotic beach boys on their holidays in the Bahamas, Bali and Southern Europe perhaps just because it’s something they don’t get at home. But looks only go so far – what keeps men committed to their Thai love even after the first-time excitement is over?
...Thai girls’ prime asset is their sexuality. Thai girls feel that women should be sexy in order to make a man fall in love and to keep him interested – not far from the typical relationship advice. When you are good in bed and as active as your man, it lessens the chances that he would want to be with someone else. However, Thai girls’ best techniques don’t necessarily have anything to do with how they perform between the sheets, but how they present themselves. Whether Thai girls work in a bar or in an office, they are generally come across as prudish and a little shy. They are conservatively but nicely dressed and rarely show much bare skin.
“She was beautiful and feminine,” said one Western man said about a Thai woman who sold souvenirs in a little travel shop. “She was dressed in a skirt and a blouse, and each time she bent slightly to show something to me from the display table, she instinctually grabbed the front of her blouse to make sure I couldn’t see anything from underneath. It was extremely exciting. I will never forget this girl, unlike the dozens of half-naked go-go girls I’ve seen.”
It seems the image of prudishness and shyness strengthens the male ego. Of course these Thai women aren’t necessarily prudish or shy, but they pretend they are because it makes men feel confident and experienced. Men are fascinated to teach women something new in bed. And they are even more fascinated when they can see that the woman enjoys it.
It is possible Thai girls are more comfortable with their sexuality, as in Thailand sex isn’t sin. Buddha never defined what he meant by his advice to abstain from sexual misconduct. Many have interpreted it to mean adultery, among other things, but its practice in Thailand is as loose as the interpretation itself. Sex is part of everyday life, and it doesn’t include the pressures brought on by Christianity, such as being “good” or “bad.” Perhaps Thai girls can have fun in bed without having to have a guilt trip the next morning. Marriage, too, isn’t a religious, but a civil event. Thai women protect their reputation of innocence before marriage, not because of religious rule, but because of the pride of parents and family. Finances might also play a part: a young woman who has the reputation of being inexperienced can ask for a bigger dowry.
Why beautiful Asian girls are so difficult to seduce ?
I tried so many times to ask out Asian girls, but they always politely refused.
They usually say " sorry, I already have a boyfriend", or " I'm too busy " or " I don't have cell phone",etc...
But sometimes I can see in the streets some common guys ( and most of them are not hansome at all ) who have an Asian beautiful girl-friend , so I just can't understand how they could manage to find single girls.
And even if the girl is single, she may also refuse if I'm not her type ( I'm half turkish half spanish). So it's such a non-sense seeing so beautiful Asian girls who accept to go out with some ugly guys ( white,black or whatever ), and they keep refusing me.
What should I do and say if I want to seduce an Asian woman ?
Why is it so complicated ?
BCOZ most Asians are not into the whole (what most American call) "dating".they want COURTSHIP which is--lets get to know each other better before we call each other boyfriend/girlfriend or sleep together.and when i say better its not a couple of dates or two but longer,way loonger.try to think of em as old fashion.and o yea,and respect their family.if they have to choose between a lover or any member of their family(even a distant cousin) they'll ditch you in a sec..hope that helps.
Thai women like lighter skin in general and they like guys who dress up and smell good; take care of themselves. I'm not picking on you I'm just saying that if your not, you might try a clean shirt, a shave, a little deoderant and a shoe shine. I could be that your pressing too hard, lighten up a bit. Just hang out and get to know people rather than trying to cull the herd. They are people try treating them like people and maybe you'll find somebody who likes you.
The truth about Thai girls
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One thing that's glaringly obvious after living here for a couple of years is that Thai girls cannot be summed up in a list of dos and don’ts. No matter how many of the Internet pundits out there try, you can’t write a guide book about girls of any nationality.
I find it perplexing reading blogs when authors focus on Thai girls and make attempts to class all Thai girls as one single entity. There are girls in Thailand who so radically break from the farang-publicized norm that they are grossly misrepresented by many of the people who write submissions for Stickman, among other sites. Perhaps with the influence of the Western world has come a new development in the mindset of Thai girls and Thai people as a whole.
When I first arrived in Thailand I was taken aback by the tales and fables about Thai girls. Every farang I met could sum Thai girls up for me in a few short sentences. Could life really be this simple? I was confused and yet intrigued, but I soon realised that these farangs only dealt with a small proportion of Thai girls.
There are a few Thai-girls myths that have been floating round the Internet for some time that I would like to address:
Thai girls are shy in public
A somewhat dated view is that Thai girls will not so much as hold hands in public, let alone kiss. The younger Thai girls I know have no quarms about holding hands in public. Kissing in public is a taboo, but it’s one that is increasingly broken. Public displays of affection are not uncommon, but if you start making out in the middle of MBK then you are likely to attract suspicious looks.
There is no such thing as free sex in Thailand
I came across this from the otherwise worth-a-read Bangkok Diaries blog. I don’t know where people get this idea from, but casual sex does exist in Thailand. And no, it doesn’t have to involve bar girls. Younger Thai girls are more modern than some people give credit for.
All Thai girls love farang
This one couldn’t be further from the truth. Just because you have white skin and big eyes doesn’t mean that you will be the desire of all Thai women. There may well be some envy of your characteristics, but this doesn’t always equate to attraction. It’s funny to watch clueless foreigners in bars and clubs trying it on with Thai girls, only for the Thai girl to step up and assert her authority. Wham!
Thai girls don’t like sex
I’ve seen this one pop up on the Internet a few times. The idea that Thai girls don’t enjoy sex is pushing it a bit. Thai girls are the same as girls anywhere else in the world, and with taboos about sex breaking down in Thailand in the 21st century, Thai girls are more open about the subject as a whole.
Thai girls won’t talk about sex
While Thai girls’ attitudes are perhaps a little different to those of Western girls, contrary to popular belief, Thai girls do talk about sex. You only have to listen in to a university-student gossip session to learn this.
Most Thai girls are prostitutes
It’s simply not true. A great many Western men only meet a small percentage of Thai women. No more needs to be said about this one.
Most good Thai girls are virgins
I read this on Thailand Guru. I hate the idea that anyone would consider it bad for a Thai girl not to be a virgin. How can anybody define a “good” Thai girl in this manner? Younger generations of Thai girls have, believe it or not, found ways to have sex and still be good girls.
Only bar girls take drugs
A common misconception. Whether it’s smoking weed, taking coke, ecstasy, even crystal meth: recreational drug use is not restricted for bar girls or “bad girls”.
Admittedly, my thoughts on this subject come from interacting within social circles of people my age. I don’t want to say that Thai girls are one thing and not another, but I find it frustrating when reading “guides” on how to date Thai girls or what Thai girls are like.
The new generation of Thai girls is very different from the stereotypes that older Western men impose on Thai girls as a whole. While I have a very real fear that an article like this could kill my blog once and for all, this is what is on my mind and this is what I've chosen to write today.
‘She’s a good Thailand girl‘
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Now I must warn you before you read this post because I will touch on some deep and sensitive issues about not just why western men get a bad Thai girlfriend but something deeper about the human psychology involved in that….. and it may touch a nerve or two!
Now just let me say that some of you may find this difficult to read…..but my purpose is not to hurt or upset you. My purpose is to help you see that what has happened to you also has reasons within you. And I want to help you face it accept it understand it and then move on from it to a better place…a place where you may finally find real love but at the very least a sense of release within yourself.
You see I don’t like to upset people or argue with negative thinking and attitudes but sometimes to help ourselves we first must face some truth about ourselves and that is not always comfortable. Many of you reading this may have had a relationship with a Thai girlfriend and have had a bad experience, some of you may have even been married and it all ended badly. Some of you maybe just thinking about getting a Thai girlfriend or just starting a relationship with a Thai girl and in that case I want you to be clear on what you are getting involved with.
Now its up to you if you choose to ignore or dismiss these things….if you do then it means you will just continue with how things are. But if you want to move on finally..if you want to release yourself from your own pain, sadness, bitterness or even anger then just have a little faith and belief and think about what I say here
You see to change anything about our life we must first change our thinking because what we are is in fact what we think. Life does not just happen to us……..there is nobody just controlling your life and making decisions for you without you having anything to do with it. We all create the life we live, whether consciously or subconsciously.
So let me ask you how do you think you came to attract this situation into your life? What do you think caused this to happen to you?
What would you say if the answer is You!
Maybe you believe it was just bad luck but do you really want to believe it was just bad luck…..wouldn’t that just be an easy excuse to not take responsibility for your own actions? Think about this for a moment…When you create something good in your life you like to feel good about yourself…you like to tell people what a great decision you made and you feel proud to tell….but nobody likes to admit they made a mistake do they? We don’t like to admit that at all.
So if you went to Thailand and met a Thai girl and she turned out to be not the love of your life after all and just a cheap bar girl, or even not a bar girl but just someone who was not really genuine who do you think is really to blame. Can you really just blame Thai women? Did anyone force you to get involved with that woman. What did you go to Thailand for in the first place and where did you go to meet that kind of woman. And if you have only been dealing with your Thai girlfriend online then how much do you really know about her and did you bother to find out?
You see we often only want to believe what we want to believe and see what we want to see. Maybe you, just like many western men really fell in love with the mystical and exotic Thai look and dream of having a young and beautiful Thai girlfriend who can become your wife and soulmate. You know that is hard to find in the West and so when you have the opportunity you just cannot help yourself. Or maybe you went to Thailand for some fun and love so easy with a Thai girl. But how can you tell what type of girl she really is? Maybe you don’t want to believe she is a bad Thai girl and so you choose not to see it, even though it is in fact quite clear what she is and what she wants from you.
I have also even heard many talk about Buddhism and how can these their Thai girlfriends do that to us when it is supposed to be a Buddhist country? Well the truth is that before you ask that question you must first understand Buddhism properly. Buddhism is not about avoiding pain and suffering. Buddhism is about acceptance of pain and suffering and the ability to rise above it, to transcend it. Being Thai also does not automatic make you a good Buddhist either.
This is a very direct perspective and you might guess he is western…haha..no greng jai there but I do agree with it because it is about taking responsibility for your actions. Not hiding from the truth and trying to blame mistakes on other things or people. Yes others are involved but we all have choice and to believe you have no choice only makes you a victim of yourself.
so my friends I will leave you with that now. I want you just to think about that for a while. I will follow up on this post soon but for now I think it says enough. I sincerely hope that if you have a Thai Girlfriend or are thinking about one or have one online although sensitive this post will help you in the long run.
The title of this post makes me laugh I must be honest. Why? because it is a phrase you hear many Farang using..I think sometimes to try and persuade people the Thailand girl they have on their arm is not a bar girl. But you know sometimes I actually wonder who they are really trying to persuade..sorry if that sound’s to hard and direct but I feel it’s the truth…jing!.
So good Thailand girls where are they?
Well to make you laugh I was recently in Pattaya! I had not been there for many years after the last seminar at Jomtien and so was curious to have a look now that I am writing this blog. I also wanted to take Dean there so he could witness it first hand for himself also.
So do I really need to explain anything here about Pattaya? Well let me tell you that Dean made the remark..” How can anyone be confused about the girls here”.. I had to laugh at that. It does amaze me how many stories I hear about Farang men who get involved with the girls there and then wonder why they end up in the mess they do….as Dean said…What was it they were confused about exactly?
Needless to say then that you will have a hard time finding any Good Thailand girl there. But look I am not saying don’t go there..just be clear on what to expect and don’t be stupid!! To them you are business and they will tell you whatever you want to hear and this is far different from “Greng Jai”.
No the truth is if you want to find Good Thai girls then you will have to get into the real Thai lifestyle. You see good Thailand girls will be in the same places that Good Western girls will be in your own countries..normal life, work, supermarkets, shopping malls and restaurants and normal everyday places like that.
Just think about where you are and what type of Thai girl you should expect to find there!
Recently I was in one of my favorite restaurants in Bangkok..Pathe restaurant. Now here is a place where normal Thai people go…you do get the occasional Farang as well as there was that night. Sitting at a table was a Farang man around early 30′s with a girl about the same age…so perfect not too much age gap for a start. The girl I could tell was a Good Thailand Girl. Certainly from Bangkok because you can tell from her style..skin tone, clothes, body language…and these are the real pointers that tell you what type of girl you are dealing with. Not the high heeled short skirt and heavy make up you so often see on the arms of Farang. She was a Good Thai Girl but not easy to get to meet which is the problem sometimes and I do understand that. You have to be creative sometimes is what I can tell you…but just keep it genuine.
The thing is Good Thai girls dont always have any thoughts about Farang men. They dont really know too much about Farang and western culture like that. This was confirmed to me last year when I was on a Thai package tour to vietnam. Out of the 30 people on that tour there was around 7 or 8 single Thai girls..all around the 30 age bracket and all normal good Thailand girls. Sadly though I can’t help wondering if the fact they do not look like the girls you see in Pattaya makes them less attractive to Farang.
What good Thai girls worry about with Farang is communication
I got a chance to talk to them and find out what they think about Western men and why they are still single because I can say they are all good looking and some very pretty…what they told me was they do not really think about Farang as a boyfriend but are not against it either but what they worry about is communication. How to talk is what they all seem to be concerned with as many of them don’t speak good English. This is interesting because we all know how important communication is in any relationship.
So here is a problem because most Farang don’t speak Thai…at least not more than a few words and so this is one reason why it is not easy to get to know a good Thailand girl. One thing I do like to recommend to western men who are thinking of finding a Thai Girlfriend is to learn to speak a little bit of Thai…just ‘nid noi’….you will be surprised how impressed thai’s will be with that.
So to find a good Thailand girl….just mix into real Thai culture and lifestyle and give the all night Pattaya bars a miss for a while.
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